After I made the decision to stay home, someone told me it would take about a year until I missed everything. It was almost to the day for me. Of course, the fact that we had a baby and moved within that year likely gave me enough distraction to last the full year. I missed the income, but mostly, I missed the success and the friends, and the interaction, and yes, I missed having the ability to go to the restroom alone, and just think. I actually started to wonder if I was a better mom when I did work some. When I did this, I didn't have to focus so much on the laundry and cleaning, and I came home ready to play with my kids because I missed them terribly. Now that I was home, I felt like I was cleaning up after everyone all of the time, and when I had a moment to sit down, I just wanted to sit in peace. I loved being home with them, but I was not getting the quality of time with my children that I had hoped for. What happened?
I was looking for kudos from my husband for things like cleaning out the garage or a closet, and he didn't understand this need. "Yeah", he would say, "it looks better", and shrug his shoulders, at which point I would burst into tears (which don't normally come easy to me). He knew this was not normal for me. I knew something had to happen here. I started researching my options for returning to some sort of career. The baby was now one, and twins were about to enter kindergarten, so this seemed more possible. I posted online for a few HR jobs, and actually had an interview with a local company for a job that sounded promising. Since the location was close to home, I could possibly manage this career with less time away from my family that other locations, and I might be happier, and our finances less strained.
This company called with a job offer, and the job had suddenly changed. It was now a job that would require 4 days per week of travel, for the first 9 months. ALSO... I just found out I was PREGNANT again! It just wasn't in the cards for now. I was back on the hunt for something I could do from home without interrupting my family, and without a huge risk or obligation to sell to my friends and neighbors.
Thursday, January 22, 2009
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